About three weeks ago I called all over the place looking for a dealership that would help me out. One of the dealers pointed me towards a different dealer in California. He said they would be my best bet and gave me the phone number. I called them with a whole bunch of numbers in hand and asked if any could be found. They called back a few days later and said they could get some, but not all since some were discontinued. One of those that I could source was the gray door decals. They are around $85 a piece.
I think the difference between your story and mine is that you're talking to people that look on the computer and see that something is either in production or not. Whereas I'm talking to people who might possibly know where to look and see if that PN is in warehouse x's inventory. You're probably right in that it's discontinued, but realize that the day they stop production there are still 1,000 units sitting on someone's shelf. I'm guessing that I have benefited from my contact actually finding a few.