It's time for a wrap-up on this saga.
So, as I backed the flare nut off it began to bind up. I worked it back and forth making tiny bits of progress and being careful not to round off the shoulders of the flare nut. I spent a lot of time doing this. That worked up to a point but eventually it just wouldn't go any more so of course I added more and more brute force until I rounded over the shoulders of the flare nut. The next step was vice grips but before resorting to that I got out the hammers and "tapped" on the coupler. Fortunately both side of the coupler (hard line and flex side) were free to turn so I was able to tap all around and loosen up whatever was causing the bind. As you can imagine the vice grips caused a terrible mess but I was able to finally get the coupler apart.
With that problem resolved the fuel tank was fairly easy to lower out of position with the help of my floor jack.
Next problem, RockAuto sent me the wrong pump.
The part number on the box was correct but it had the wrong pump inside. To RockAuto's credit, their return process was pretty easy.
I bought a different pump from a local O'Reilly's, it was $20 more but only set me back 30 minutes instead of dealing with a replacement from RockAuto.
It all went back together pretty easy. I cleaned the coupler threads good and applied a heavy dose of copper anti-seize compound (it's what I had readily available.) The coupler was still a little stiff going back together but I only needed small pliers to spin the flare nut in.
With everything back together, and inspected for leaks, I took it out for a test drive. To my surprise the engine pulls harder and just wants to rip. I wouldn't have expected a fuel pump to make any difference in that regard. One problem that didn't go away is that even though it idles perfectly at 750 rpm in the driveway, it drops to 550 rpm at stop signs. That problem was relatively new, correlating to the antics of a weak fuel pump that I expected a new fuel pump to solve.
In addition to the idle problem, something is draining the battery when it just sits. I suspect the alternator which is less than a year old. I haven't looked into it yet, I just disconnect the negative cable from the battery for now.